2 years ago..
Went to do fringe rebonding today as my fringe was getting too wavy and disgusting. As always, I went back to my normal haorstylist, Kef. He asked me if I was still in contact with my ex-bf, Stu. Kinda surprised me that he would ask this question. Brought back some memories..
Many people were envious of me when I first started dating Stu. Who wouldn't be? It was almost like a fairytale story. I was the temp staff at his office and he was the director of the company. It was a partnership that he had set up with a couple of friends. Anyway, the way we started was like a fairytale in itself.. He is 8 years older than I am, and yet we started dating.
As most people know, I'm not the kind of girl who needs her bf to be around 24/7. I believe in personal time and space, and that we all should have the freedom to go out with friends even when we are in a relationship. With Stu, I had more than that coz he was always too busy to go out with me. Our dating ground, almost everytime we met, was in his office. His life was too hectic to accomodate a gf. Even though i don't need a bf 24/7, I needed care and concern.. Which I could hardly get from him.
There was a time when we were supposed to meet and I had to wait for almost 3 hours before he appeared. And there wasn't a single "Sorry" when he arrived. He said that when he was busy, he won't think of anything.. Let alone his gf waiting for him and worrying about his safety. That day, I realised I was a nobody and my heart was broken. Just like when I waited for him for 5 hours and he lost his temper. It was a tough period for me coz most people who know me well enough will know that I hate waiting for people. Yet.. For him.. I waited long, and i mean LONG, hours. Maybe love is really blind..
He told me he couldn't handle long distance relationships when we first started dating. But when he told me he was going to US for a month in July, I decided to try out for internship in Shanghai which would happen in June. He was unhappy upon hearing that I wanted to even go for the internship, so I stayed on in Singapore.
Stu's not a bad person.. Just that he will put himself and his job on the top of his list. Those are his priorities. He didn't need to have me in his life and I felt redundant most of the time. Especially when I pop by his office to look for him. To other people, it always appears as if I'm disturbing him while he's working. I don't mean to... But.. There's no other way I could meet up with him!
It soon dawned on me that this guy doesn't need a gf.. He's too much a workaholic to sustain a relationship. Hopefully he's changed now coz I heard that he's got a gf. Maybe he's better off without me. I could never satisfy his needs anyway. What he wants, I couldn't give. Hope the girl is able to make him happy and that she's the one he's looking for. Hope she doesn't need too much of his time, care and concern. That will make the relationship work better. All the best Stu!
Many people were envious of me when I first started dating Stu. Who wouldn't be? It was almost like a fairytale story. I was the temp staff at his office and he was the director of the company. It was a partnership that he had set up with a couple of friends. Anyway, the way we started was like a fairytale in itself.. He is 8 years older than I am, and yet we started dating.
As most people know, I'm not the kind of girl who needs her bf to be around 24/7. I believe in personal time and space, and that we all should have the freedom to go out with friends even when we are in a relationship. With Stu, I had more than that coz he was always too busy to go out with me. Our dating ground, almost everytime we met, was in his office. His life was too hectic to accomodate a gf. Even though i don't need a bf 24/7, I needed care and concern.. Which I could hardly get from him.
There was a time when we were supposed to meet and I had to wait for almost 3 hours before he appeared. And there wasn't a single "Sorry" when he arrived. He said that when he was busy, he won't think of anything.. Let alone his gf waiting for him and worrying about his safety. That day, I realised I was a nobody and my heart was broken. Just like when I waited for him for 5 hours and he lost his temper. It was a tough period for me coz most people who know me well enough will know that I hate waiting for people. Yet.. For him.. I waited long, and i mean LONG, hours. Maybe love is really blind..
He told me he couldn't handle long distance relationships when we first started dating. But when he told me he was going to US for a month in July, I decided to try out for internship in Shanghai which would happen in June. He was unhappy upon hearing that I wanted to even go for the internship, so I stayed on in Singapore.
Stu's not a bad person.. Just that he will put himself and his job on the top of his list. Those are his priorities. He didn't need to have me in his life and I felt redundant most of the time. Especially when I pop by his office to look for him. To other people, it always appears as if I'm disturbing him while he's working. I don't mean to... But.. There's no other way I could meet up with him!
It soon dawned on me that this guy doesn't need a gf.. He's too much a workaholic to sustain a relationship. Hopefully he's changed now coz I heard that he's got a gf. Maybe he's better off without me. I could never satisfy his needs anyway. What he wants, I couldn't give. Hope the girl is able to make him happy and that she's the one he's looking for. Hope she doesn't need too much of his time, care and concern. That will make the relationship work better. All the best Stu!
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